Today was a very busy Saturday. We spent about 5 hours in the car traveling in and around Denver. One of our many stops was big-sis’s soccer game. We don’t get to spend much time with her (every other weekend) but when we do the kids just have a blast! So…getting to the meat of tonight’s blog. I continue to see sides of my little princess and learn from her. Now she just turned two and has always been VERY different than big-brother. She is EXTREMELY stong willed and cannot be argued with. She yells at her brother and any other person who tries to tell her what to do. Now my honey and I have tried to get her to ‘listen’ to what Mom and Dad say to do but not qwell her spirit of independence. I thought about how hard it is to be a teenage girl, the peer pressure, the friends, the acceptance and I want so much to foster her to be a leader and not a follower (she leads EVERYONE in our house right now). So… in a effort to promote her ’spirit’ we have let her stand her ground ‘most’ of the time.
Many of you can imagine that today at the soccer game big-sis’s step day decided to chase the little kids around. To set the stage there were three little 2-3yr olds sitting on the blanket with me eating popcorn. He sneaks up and pretends to be ‘getting’ them. The two boys run away to play ‘chase’ when little miss ‘independent’ stands up, points her finger, and promptly yells “NO SIR” at him! Mom of course could not stop laughing. For a minute should I tell her “no yelling” or “we don’t yell at adults”? Believe me, I grew up in the south I’m a “yes maam” kind of mom. We obey adults! We don’t talk back! But man, I was floored! I didn’t know what to do. Obviously since the boys ran off to be chased the nice man ran after the boys but my princess ran chase after them yelling “no” to all of them, pointing her finger and yelling, she was convinced that they were misbehaving!
The entire trip home I thought about this. When she becomes a young woman I don’t want her to give in to others demands. I want her to stand up and yell no when she doesn’t think something is right. I also want her to respect adults. At the same time how much of this is just crazy two yr-old behavior?
I didn’t come up with any answers to this and I am continuing to ponder it. The one thing I am sure of is this is one fiesty little girl. If she stays like this the boyfriends will be small in number due to her high demands! I’m sure Dad won’t mind!
